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Alright I have some major problems with advisors at this moment!! Why is it that when ever a girl has a grievance about something they have to turn it around and make it seem like that girls are the one who are the problem?? I was unfortunately unable to attend this months business meeting because I was sick. Well, I just talked to one of the girls about the meeting because she was there. She decided to discuss with the adults why things have been going shitty. Here is her things and their responses:

What happened to our ideas about fun events and fundraisers? It is not our place to do that, that is that worthy advisors place (worthy advisor: I don't like it when I make stuff and no one goes)

What happened to the phone calls and the phone list? Phone calls are curtasy, you get a calendar ... use it.

Why can't we go to stores and ask if we can have a fundraiser or sale items outside like other organizations? the worthy advisor has to do it, you can collect money but the assembly can't do it as a whole without the worthy advisor.

What happened to the study nights? Well, one advisor lost another family member and the other one has to piece up her daughter from school and will be late. (said daughter is the worthy advisor and goes to college ... the same college that is right next to where I go and I have stated that I could pick her up before a meeting since I make my classes so I am in the area on that day!)

Why is it that we are always getting yelled at but the older girls don't get yelled at? Because they have worked for respect and have earned it. (Sorr but all these older girls except me, have an parent on the board and get treated alot better then those who don't ... they don't have to work ... everything is handed to them!)

Then the advisor go off and talk rude to them about a dinner in which they were yelling so much that a girl broke out into hives and wasn't working because she didn't understand what was going on with her body. So her two friends worked overtime to pick up her stuff, they continue to get yelled and at then tell the girls who got sick to go home ... well, the girl happened to come with the other two so they all had to leave together ... and now the advisors are upset, and very anger that the girls left them in the middle of a dinner.

Also how many members are to be present to have it considered to be a legal meeting?? The girl I talked to said there was five girls and the adults said that since there were so many advisors present (more then the girls) then it would be considered an legal meeting. If I remember correctly the number is seven ... but let me know if I am wrong.

Feedback Needed, because I just had to talk a girl out of deactivating and will propably need to talk to more!!!!
 
 
 
 
 
 
These kinds of things seem to be becoming a bigger and bigger problem. They were in my Assembly too. After my sister and I got our Majority our Assembly closed down. Too many Advisors want to be on the board so they can be oohed and ahhed, but when it comes down to it they simply to not have the time or the inclination to do what it takes to be an Advisor. If a board member has too little free time (which is understandable) they should help the board to find a replacement and step down. Under NO circumstances should a board member yell at a girl. EVER! If this is a continuing problem it should be brought up to the distric Deputy. If she does not help you should try talking to your State Mother Advisor or Supreme Deputy.

Now, it IS the job of the Worthy Advisor to plan activities, but her board must help her! If an event/fundraiser is planned the board should let the WA know if people will be able to chaparone, etc. Where is the Mother Advisor in all of this? She needs to step up and help her Worthy Advisor! No girl can do things without help from the adults.

About the phone list, I would pick the most responsible girl in the Assembly and ask if she wouldn't mind calling the girls the day before an event to remind her. It might be good to choose two girls if that is too much for one. We did that in my Assembly and it really worked. It also showed the board that we were mature enough to handle it.

The best advice I can offer is to turn to your own girls. Talk to them and get their feelings. Then see if you can camly and rationaly talk to the Advisory board. If that does not work try and talk to someone higher up. Make sure you tell someone that the girls are getting yelled at. Let the girls know that Rainbow is a beautiful order. Remind them of the fun times. Try and help them schedule things that don't need a lot of adults involved like movie nights at individual's houses, maybe a New Year's eve bash.

I hope this is of some help.

In Rainbow Love and Service,
Sara Root
Past Grand Rep. to Maine
Past Grand Rep. to Michigan
In Florida
If this is a continuing problem it should be brought up to the distric Deputy. If she does not help you should try talking to your State Mother Advisor or Supreme Deputy.

I hate to have to go to them but I think that it is getting to that point. I just recently turned 21 (last month) and another one will turn 21 in 06 before grand assembly. Also one of our girls are away at college. Then we have girls that rarely show up so our assembly is losing members like crazy. I have tried to get the younger members to get new members in (even made a deal to take one to a favorite theme park in my area if she brought in 10 members [she has the girls just can seem to find an event where they have see the good side of rainbow] and I have also made a deal with the rest of them to try and bet her or at least get as many as they can) The adult don't seem to be helping any and I am hoping that talking to someone else will help.

Where is the Mother Advisor in all of this?
Our mother advisor has been a member along with her husbadn since their daughter joined rainbow (she is now away at college so it has been a few years) For those who want the nice version she has done alot to work with our assembly ... my opinion as well as the opinion of a few others ... she spends her time kissing the Supreme Deputy's ass because her daughter could have been a grand line officer but since she wasn't elected it seems that they just don't care about the assembly only the power of ass kicking (I REPEAT THIS IS ONLY AN OPINION with a few facts!) To be honest, our advisory board consists of power hungry adults.

About the phone list, I would pick the most responsible girl in the Assembly and ask if she wouldn't mind calling the girls the day before an event to remind her. It might be good to choose two girls if that is too much for one. We did that in my Assembly and it really worked. It also showed the board that we were mature enough to handle it.

That is how we had it before but when I became Worthy Advisor, it wasn't really working so I made all the calls two-three days before. Now we have two girls (the Worthy Advisor and the girls that told me about the meeting) doing the calls. We also have a faith but the adults are screwing her over so much that her and her sister don't want to come unless I am there. It isn't that the non WA girl can't handle the calls but the WA doesn't call her about the events like the tree is suppose to be like or she calls her the night before the event when most of our girls are doing homework, or even spelling (I would say the average time is 8-9 the night before!)

The best advice I can offer is to turn to your own girls. Talk to them and get their feelings. Then see if you can camly and rationaly talk to the Advisory board. If that does not work try and talk to someone higher up. Make sure you tell someone that the girls are getting yelled at. Let the girls know that Rainbow is a beautiful order. Remind them of the fun times.

That is what I am trying to do. I don't know about talking to the adults because the last time I brough up phone calls (this is an continuing issues of mine) they went off and said that I didn't do calls when I did. As for telling someone higher about the shit (pardon my french) going on ... I plan on it. But I can't be the only one to say something so I am going to talk to the girls about saying something as well. During the break I am planning to do a little retreat at my house for the younger members, just to talk about what is going on and regroup. Also so that we can figure out what is going on and how to possibly make it better. The adults don't know about this because I don't want them saying 'oh you can't do that outside of rainbow without inviting everyone' and I know that if I invited everyone my house would turn into WWIII!
This is almost the exact reason why I left my assembly. (I also left over some grand appointment isues.) I couldn't take all the bickering and whatnot, all the jealousy, the nagging, the favortism. So I left. I loved Rainbow, but sitting through that was not worth it. When I was initiated, my assembly didn't have enough girls to have a regular meeting. So I brought in everyone I could find. At our peak, we every station filled (with the exception of about 4, I believe). But then the advisory board starting doing what they did. When I left, we has line officers, a recorder, and a confidential observer. I couldn't go to my supreme deputy, as this problem with the adults seems to be spread to every level of Rainbow in my state. (This isn't to say that there aren't nice/good/helpful adults; they just aren't all the prevalent.) So I quit. I turn 21 in two weeks. I'm going to pay up my dues and get my majority just in case I have a daughter who wants to join Rainbow (if it's still around here) when she gets of age. I breaks my heart to know that Rainbow is suffering so badly, and it's apparently not just limited to this state.
what state?
I am in good relations with my Supreme inspector and could maybe initiate a house of gold meeting! IM me at BROADWAYDEEZENO on AOL
if the girl really dislikes the way the assembly is being run, they could write a letter to the Supreme Inspector/Deputy, or the Grand Executive board to have the MA and Advisory board inspected. Other than that, demit and join a close by assembly. I had to do that!